...to get pregnant. Were here on our 9th month of trying since we lost the baby in November... and I can't understand why were not pregnant yet. We got pregnant quickly with Ollie and we fell pregnant on the 3rd month with our 2nd baby. This is the longest it has taken and I'm really worried there is something wrong. I try to keep positive and tell myself all the time "things happen for a reason"... "appreciate what you have right now"... "it'll happen when it happens", but this doesn't calm me down.
Why is it taking so long? I've been pregnant twice and have carried one baby to term... so I know I can do it. I know it probably has a lot to do with stressing about it, but how do I relax when It's taking forever?
I know I haven't posted anything about it taking us a long time to get pregnant... but it has never worried me this much before.
I'm not sure what your doctors there are telling you (don't know if your doctors' methods vary from here in the States), but here they say after 6 mos of trying without success you need to see a doctor...just to make sure everything is OK. But I will tell you...the first pregnancy my sister had was by "accident" meaning she wasn't trying to have a baby. However, on Baby #2, they expected to get pregnant right away and I think it took about 6-7 mos. I know that doesn't help you, but I would encourage you to talk to your doctor. They may not be able to tell you anything, but if there is something that is working against another pregnancy...at least you would know and know how to combat it! I know this has to be frustrating, no matter what.
ReplyDeletemymonthlycycles.com I used this site after trying for 2 years and got pregnant w/in months. I used it again and got pregnant again. It keep track of my periods so well, every month it was right on.
ReplyDeleteSign up it's free, track your period, dont mess w/ temps or anything cause I think that creates stress, and look for the bunnies. It will put bunnies on a calendar when your fertile and just have sex on the 4 days it says
Sorry your havin a hard time I hope the site helps. The last 3 people I sent it to ended up pregnant, don't know if the site is the reason but they got pregnant.
My prayers are with you. I know it can be hard when you want something soooo much, and it doesn't happen. Keep praying and try not to stress...
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry. It is so frustrating to want to be pregnant and ready to be pregnant but you just aren't pregnant yet. I hope it changes really soon for you! I am sending all my positive thoughts your way!
ReplyDeleteyou're in my prayers. keep your hopes up! may be worthwhile to see a doc just to make sure everything's working as it should too :)
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I have been trying for a year and a half....so I feel your pain! Definitely dont stress about it...i learned that that just makes it worse. Get creative and have fun with your husband. Itll happen when you least expect it. At least, thats what I keep telling myself. Everything happens for a reason. Best of luck :)
ReplyDeleteHi Emma. I totally feel your pain. It has been almost a year and a half that we have been trying. Well - I mean - we haven't been doing anything specific - but we haven't been preventing it either. And still nothing. I know it doesn't offer much - but hang in there. There is always a reason for God's timing. :)
ReplyDeleteOh hun sorry to hear that it is taking so long. I remember ttc with my 2 1/2 yr old. I had my tubes reversed and everything was all clear but it took forever to get pregnant. When I finally did I had 3 m/c before her. Then when we started ttc my 14 month old we had a m/c before her and I had another m/c on new years eve this past year. I for sure thought something was wrong but I been tested and everything is fine. I know how it feels hun. I am sorry it is fustrating but all I can say is talk to your dr. Then if everything is fine. Then you will just have to take it one day at a time.
ReplyDeleteSorry it's taking so long :-(. I know that can be frustrating. That's one of my worries when I want to start trying to have kids.
ReplyDeleteThere are many possibilities for not getting pregnant right away though, even if you were able to do it faster previously.
The window of pregnancy is realistically only about 5 days out of the month, so the chances of getting pregnant are not that high unless you happen to know for sure you are ovulating. However, it's always hard to know for sure. Cycles vary and previous pregnancy can throw off the normal cycle.
A change in dietary habits can also affect how your body reacts to the proposition of pregnancy. If your body feels you're too skinny or vice versa, or even too stressed, ovulation may temporarily shut down.
There are multiple reasons why it's especially difficult based on the anatomy of the female reproductive system alone, but I'm starting to feel as boring as my nursing books, so I'll spare you :-).
Definitely talk to your doctor for suggestions, strategies and advice, but in general they say not to get too concerned until you've been trying for about a year, so stay positive :-).
Best of luck!!
No words - just hugs :)
ReplyDeleteHi Emma --
ReplyDeleteHi -- stopping by and following from Friday Follow!
When you want something so badly, it is difficult to be patient. I think sharing your anxiety about it and hearing from others is a great step to take. I wish you the best!
Dee :D
Don't stress, it will happen. It amazes me how after 6 months of not getting pregnant after my misscarriage the doctor was ready to prescribe pills...I said no thank you and let nature take its course. Finally after trying daily for a month I was pregnant :)
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry. I understand what you are going through. I got pregnant "instantly" with number one. And by that I mean, we just started ttc and I actually got pregnant during a time when I shouldn't have gotten pregnant...before I should have gotten prego actually. Anyway, it was all fine since we were ttc, but it was fast.
ReplyDeleteAfter almost 1 year of seriously trying, we finally were able to conceive number two. Secondary infertility is rarely talked about and not as many people have sympathy or understand when you have one, but can't have a second one how difficult it can be.
Anyway. Hang in there. It will happen.
Do talk to your dr though, just to rule anything out.
Hugs!
I am so sorry. I understand what you are going through. I got pregnant "instantly" with number one. And by that I mean, we just started ttc and I actually got pregnant during a time when I shouldn't have gotten pregnant...before I should have gotten prego actually. Anyway, it was all fine since we were ttc, but it was fast.
ReplyDeleteAfter almost 1 year of seriously trying, we finally were able to conceive number two. Secondary infertility is rarely talked about and not as many people have sympathy or understand when you have one, but can't have a second one how difficult it can be.
Anyway. Hang in there. It will happen.
Do talk to your dr though, just to rule anything out.
Hugs!